Ten Distinctions
As part of the process of providing the client with legal services, the coach-approach lawyer coaches the client to choose among ten key distinctions that will assist the client in moving forward. The coach-approach lawyer invites the client to distinguish:
• Between perception and reality, story and fact and the consequences of confusing the one for the other;
• Between emotions and feelings and the consequences of confusing the one for the other;
• Between the "truth" and "beliefs" and the difference between disempowering beliefs and empowering beliefs and the consequences that arise from choosing one over the other;
• Between affixing blame and accepting responsibility for a legal problem and the impact that choosing one response over the other has on a client’s ability to move forward toward a workable solution to the client’s legal problem;
• Between sin and mistake, (generating either guilt or reasoned regret), and the consequences of believing that a past act was one or the other;
• Between thoughts that generate adrenalin/cortisol and those that generate endorphins and the impact on the client’s health of the presence of one or the other substance in the client’s body;
• Between motivation and inspiration and the pressure or the vacuum that results from choosing one over the other;
• Between illusionary force and true power of unattached intention and the consequences of choosing thoughts and actions that create one or the other;
• Between acting from a domination paradigm and a partnership paradigm and the consequences of operating from one or the other;
• Between what cannot be changed and what can be changed and the implications of focusing on one or the other.